There was a golden age when computers were something you owned, not like before when they were big machines your employer or university would give out access to, nor like after when they went to the cloud, you bought what was essentially a thin client and every software became a service.
At least in the olden days the computers weren’t forced into every single damn part of society!
Now in order to talk with most of your friends and family, you have to sell your soul to every one of the thousand ToS’s. It’s impossible to meaningfully use your personal device you bought with your own money without the internet, as every app and their mom needs to call home for some reason. For some reason, it is morally acceptable for a company to prevent you from being able to have someone you pay to replace parts of your device with third-party components you bought with your own money!
Now, of course, you can simply install some Libre operating system and use Lemmy, or Mastodon or whatever. But computers are so embedded into society that it is simply impossible to go without these services unless you want to get yourself isolated (and potentially in trouble with the authorities).
Besides, from prior experience, most people are unwilling to use technologies unless it is physically placed in front of them, whether through social influences, advertising or word of mouth, which generally corporate services do better than Libre alternatives.
It used to be that computers and programs were made for the end user. Now they are simply tools for ad and data-collection companies to extract every byte of personal data and force every second of advertising on others.
I’ve been seriously considering to remove computers from most aspects of my life, but as paper slowly disappears from our lives, this becomes harder and harder. Now you would likely be fired if you refused to use Teams or Slack or whatever your company uses. No one uses fax or writes mail or watches live TV anymore.
The only other alternative is to take back computers and make them personal again.
My personal solution was to just drop computers/tech as an major interest, and find some other hobby. I found language learning to be a good alternative, because:
You may be able to use it professionally.
It might be useful when traveling.
You can meet interesting people from various parts of the world and very often for free (language exchanges (online or not), playing video games, etc.).
You are able to absorb other people’s massive culture, that might not be popular in your part of the world.
You might impress some people with language skills, if you care about that.
It is good for your brain.
It is fun.
As for computers, I mostly use them as a tool nowadays, and occasional video gaming and YouTube watching. I mostly don’t care about AI, or any other technological marvel that isn’t proven yet to be useful, maybe except AR and VR which I still hope will be a big thing in the near future. Especially AR.