So I get that most people assume these “converts” are full of shit and living a lie, and they’re actually gay, and blah blah blah.
I’m sure many of them are, but I’d guess a lot of them are bisexual, and lacking any real empathy, they assume all gay men can just choose to only go for women, like they did. They still want dick (and sometimes go get it anyway), but are okay with marrying a woman and having kids, and trying to ignore the part of them that wants men. They think of it as “resisting temptation” the same way a straight man resists the temptation of women other than his wife.
One of the most eye opening statements i have ever heard was from one of the wirst tv shows on the planet, where a trans man talked about what it was like growing up in conservative america. Where he was so scared because he thought he was gay. Only to later learn that trans people even exist and that he’s not “just” gay. I’m some average run of the mill hetero, i never had to even think about these things. Boy like girls and that hit for me and i was done and never had to think about it again. I can’t even comprehend how hard it has to be to pretend to not like other boys growing up. Or the bombshell it must be to realize that this already complicated thing got even more complicated.
So I get that most people assume these “converts” are full of shit and living a lie, and they’re actually gay, and blah blah blah.
I’m sure many of them are, but I’d guess a lot of them are bisexual, and lacking any real empathy, they assume all gay men can just choose to only go for women, like they did. They still want dick (and sometimes go get it anyway), but are okay with marrying a woman and having kids, and trying to ignore the part of them that wants men. They think of it as “resisting temptation” the same way a straight man resists the temptation of women other than his wife.
One of the most eye opening statements i have ever heard was from one of the wirst tv shows on the planet, where a trans man talked about what it was like growing up in conservative america. Where he was so scared because he thought he was gay. Only to later learn that trans people even exist and that he’s not “just” gay. I’m some average run of the mill hetero, i never had to even think about these things. Boy like girls and that hit for me and i was done and never had to think about it again. I can’t even comprehend how hard it has to be to pretend to not like other boys growing up. Or the bombshell it must be to realize that this already complicated thing got even more complicated.
The sad thing is it should be OK if someone likes sex with both genders. But for some reason, they can’t reconcile that.